Whether we spend the majority of our time at parties, the office, or just moving around town, as humans we all meet new people every day. And though meeting new people can be a bit intimidating at first, doing it well can really make the difference in many aspects of our daily lives.
Learning to be interesting and interested when you meet new people can be the difference between making new friends, and becoming just another face in the crowd. The following are some simple tips to help you be interesting and memorable when you meet people for the first time.
Get out There
Sometimes the idea of meeting new people can be so overwhelming that it is easier to just stay home and play games on a device of preference. And though this may be the easier option, it is never the best one.
It may seem basic, but one of the best things you can do to make yourself more interesting is to simply get out there and meet new people! This approach has two main benefits:
- You will meet people to be interesting for. It is hard to be interesting when there is no one around to see it.
- You will have many more interesting stories and adventures to share with the people you meet.
So, as you contemplate excuses to avoid the hassle of your next social event, make it your priority to attend. Just putting yourself out there will make a huge difference in the connections and experiences it will facilitate.
Observe and Listen
Sure, part of being interesting is certainly having interesting stories to tell. But when it comes down to it, people really enjoy being listened to and understood.
As you mingle with new people, make it your priority to really listen to what they have to say. Ask them questions, and when they answer, really take the time to listen. Don’t simply think of your next great response; instead pay attention to what they have to say.
Listening in this way will show that you are invested in the conversation, and the people you talk to will naturally be interested in what you have to say as well. As a consequence, you fill find that you don’t have to force conversation; it should naturally flow in a direction all participants are comfortable with.
But what if a conversation doesn’t go well, or things get a little weird? Well, that’s an interesting story you will get to share at another time. File it away under “That awkward moment when….”
Have a Plan, But Be Flexible
Going into a social engagement without a plan is a great way to get stuck in awkward conversations. As you think about your next party, consider the things you want to show off about your life and personality.
Compose a mental list of traits and stories you want to share with your new friends, and you will be ready for whatever conversation comes your way. Keep in mind that although having a plan is important, following it unfailingly isn’t.
Being flexible in your plan is an important part of being natural and interesting. If a conversation doesn’t go the way you had planned, simply change your plan and go with the flow.
Meeting new people can be a bit frightening, but armed with these simple tips you are ready to make an excellent impression!
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